Strategy #1 for Drama-Free Living: Ditch your expectations (in Favor of a Little Magic)

Do you believe in magic? I don’t mean the kind of magic where a man in a top hat pulls a bunny out of a hat. I’m talking about the kind of magic where miracles change your life story forever.

I have always believed in the kind of magic that brings showbiz talent to a group of inner-city nuns when Whoopi Goldberg goes into the witness protection program, or the kind of magic that rehabilitates a grumpy old Tom Hanks when he has a chance to coach an all-women’s professional baseball team during World War II.

For me, magic means that anything could happen. In elementary school I would spend hours – mostly on car rides – thinking about how many magical moments lay ahead of me: my high school graduation, my first boyfriend, my career achievements.

There is something easy about believing in magic when endless possibilities ahead of you. Perhaps it is because we are not yet shackled to the expectations we tie on with each passing year of life experience.

In the 80’s classic Ally Sheedy’s character in The Breakfast Club says a line that has always stuck with me. She says, “When you grow up, your heart dies.” I remember this line so well because it vocalized one of my biggest childhood fears. Deep down I was scared that one day I would bury my curiosity, silliness, optimism and love under a heap of fear and worry, and pain so big it would force my heart to all but disappear.

As an adult, I didn’t always succeed in keeping my heart alive. There have been long periods where my “heart” was weak and I stopped believing in magic almost together. You see, I held tight to what my life experience told me. It seemed with each passing year, there were less and less possibilities that lay before me, and more and more daily, weekly, yearly patterns emerging.

The reality of taxes, stock market falls, and credit card bills shackled me to the expectation of full-time, rat-race employment. My 30th birthday came and went as a single woman and my un-met expectation of celebrating as a married person shackled me to thoughts of worthlessness…for a time, anyway.

For a time, I was locked into living inside my expectations. My attitudes and choices came from that pile of worry and fear and pain where my optimistic heart had once been.

For a time, that is, until I was reminded of the nature of the God I serve.

“Ah, Sovereign LORD, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.” (Jeremiah 32:17)

Nothing. No thing is too hard for the Lord (not taxes, not recessions, and not my stubborn whining). But my God is bigger than my expectations.

Here, I saw the patterns of life and began to believe in them more than the magic of my God. The true dying of my heart was the dying of my faith in a God who is working to bring magical life-bringing moments to my journey.

The Lord cannot be contained by my expectations. He brought Sarah a child at the age of 90, He heals the sick and He raises the dead. Who am I to expect God will guide my story according my self-seeking expectations? How can I to put God in a box and then be disappointed when He does not stay in such a tiny container?

Each day God’s mercies are new. And each day the possibilities of what He brings to our journey are endless. This is not because God can magically defy the laws of physics and human biology (although, He clearly has that power). The possibilities of our journey are endless because He is a creative and limitless God actively working in our lives.

We do not have to carry the heavy burden of our expectations when we keep close our sense of wonder. Each day we can awake with a renewed optimism and awe.

Stay watchful for His magic. Anything can happen with a God for whom nothing is too hard.

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Ginny Priz Ginny Priz is a Christian coach, writer and speaker. Ginny has overcome her own drama with a prosthetic arm, alcohol, panic disorder, and codependency. She has a passion for guiding others toward the same peace and freedom she has come to experience. Ditching drama is possible for anyone “armed” with God and the Serenity Prayer! It’s never too late to start your own Serenity Journey.

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