The Roundabout Path: A Lesson In Releasing Control

Have you ever noticed that life doesn’t seem to work out the way you planned? And if it does work out, it doesn’t satisfy the way you expected?

Some days, everything seems to come together miraculously as if 20 random pieces of string were woven together by the wind effortlessly. And then we say something like, “we couldn’t have planned it if we’d tried.”

Life is always a little out of reach. A little out of control. Whether we experience a beautiful coming-together or a minefield of delays, we are essentially powerless to command our future.

God has designed our lives this way. He has literally designed this life to be out of our control.

He knows how quickly we forget about Him. He knows our broken, fallen mind screams to rely on rationalization, reason, and our own power. Even within this life’s erratic ebbs and flows, we are hesitant to throw ourselves completely into His power. How much more would we turn our backs on Him and refuse His help if we had the power to direct our own lives?

By constantly chasing control, this life becomes a mad dash for a dandelion seed in the wind: a frustrating and fruitless pursuit. The harder we try, the more elusive control becomes. The tighter our grip, the more we lose our grip.

The problem is, control is an illusion promising satisfaction but delivering discontent. In reality, we gain satisfaction by giving up our struggle for control. Allowing God to take the reigns and direct your path creates the peace you are struggling to artificially create.

The illustration at the top of this post sums up my point perfectly. We make plans that we imagine will go smoothly. God has a more circuitous route in mind. While we tend to see each obstacle as a “set back” or “rejection” he sees it as a training tool to grow your physical, metal, and spiritual strength.

There is a line from a theatrical production called The Eulogy of Mr. Hamm that I absolutely love. The line repeats over the course of the play. It is simple and yet it sums up so many things in life. The phrase is this: “Sometimes you’ve got to make it worse to make it better.”

You have to break down a muscle to strengthen a muscle. You have to tear down a damaged wall to replace it with a new one. God may pull everything out of your control to teach you that HE has everything under control.
If He is making your life “worse” trust that He is doing so to make it better in the long run. Stop fighting what you cannot change. Release control. Ask Him to carry you.

What areas of your life are you trying to control? Is there a person or an outcome you are struggling to fit into your plans? How can you let go and let God take over?

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Ginny Priz Ginny Priz is a Christian coach, writer and speaker. Ginny has overcome her own drama with a birth defect, alcohol, panic disorder, and codependency. She has a passion for guiding others toward the same peace and freedom she has come to experience. Ditching drama is possible for anyone “armed” with God and the Serenity Prayer! It’s never too late to start your own Serenity Journey.

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